Sex Story: How to Craft a Great One

When it comes to sex, so much emphasis is placed on what people do. And for obvious reason. But what about what people say? Particularly for long-distance lovers, words become an important device for expressing themselves and connecting sexually. While men must focus on maintaining good penile health so that any visual materials they send aren’t alarming, and so that they will be able to perform once the lover is nearby, they should equally attend to their verbal abilities so they can please partners in the present with a tailored sex story.

Now, anyone can tell a sex story, but not everyone can tell a truly thrilling one. Below, men can find tips for telling a tale that stokes a lover’s passion. And, while this is certainly desired in the case of long-distance lovers, it can also be of benefit to those near and dear, spicing things up in the bedroom.

1. Learn what she likes (and doesn’t). Any man can tell a story about what he likes, and about what other women he’s been with have liked, but tailoring a story to a particular lover’s preferences and fantasies will make all the difference for her. So some explicit pre-conversation will be very helpful. Does she have any kinks or fetishes? What positions does she love? Does she like to be in control, to relinquish control or a combination of the two? What kind of foreplay really gets her going? Where are her hot spots, inside and out?

Once a man has the details, he can use them wisely throughout his story. He should be careful not to turn the story into a formulaic bullet-point list of her desires. Intersperse aspects of what she likes with what the story-teller craves – having made sure that she is comfortable with what he likes. Learning what she doesn’t like is just as important here.

2. Get into her pleasure. This is one of the most important general sex tips, not just a story-telling tip. But a story is going to be much better if a man not only “ticks the boxes” of a lady’s preferences, but actually gets into the idea of pleasuring her. This opens him up to more descriptive language, imagining her writhing, moaning, gasping and so on, and responding sexually himself to her reactions, describing how much he enjoys the pleasure his “character” is giving hers.

3. Interactive or monologue? Lovers can play around with different formats for story-telling. They may want to start off exchanging monologues about what they want to do and to have done to them. Then they can move to live chatting or speaking in which the primary story-teller is open to interjections and revisions from the other, or the two can take equal turns building the tale.

4. It’s all in the details. Telling a great sex story requires consistency and detail – imagine the way bodies are positioned throughout, and make reasonable transitions to other positions. Were her hands tied behind her back? If she’s going to use her hands on one’s member in the next scene, they need to be untied, for example. Breaking consistency can break the magic of a steamy tale.

5. Be realistic. The best sex story is realistic. If a man writes or says that the second he enters a woman, she climaxes, that’s not likely to titillate her because it’s not likely to happen in real life. Don’t write about crazy positions that her flexibility or one’s own strength would not facilitate. While it may seem like no big deal to portray ideals and wild fantasies, this could convey to her that a man wants or expects things she can’t deliver, and that’s not a sexy thought.

Many couples choose to supplement their verbal tales with risqué pictures, and that’s a great idea for people who trust one another. A good sex tip for guys in this vein is to be mindful to make their organs as presentable as possible so that their dick pics are appealing. Minding the condition of the skin is crucial here. A penis health crème (health professionals recommend Man1 Man Oil) with Shea butter and vitamin E will keep the skin moisturized, eliminated the common issues of dryness and flakiness. Plus, such a product will help minimize chafing, which is inevitable with all the cranking a man is likely to do while crafting and receiving hot sex stories.

How Women Enjoy Eroticism Through Sex Stories

Most heterosexual women do not masturbate. They also do not find the concepts of eroticism or fantasy that appealing. So who reads all the feminine erotica out there?

Presumably some lesbian women masturbate and read erotica. In fact, female masturbation and clitoral stimulation are often associated with lesbianism. Perhaps this is why so much female erotica focuses on women’s bodies and sex between women.

No offence to lesbian or bisexual women but I am straight. I like male body parts, male psyche and sexual acts involving men. The woman is incidental. I enjoy homosexual erotica because I imagine myself on the receiving end of fellatio or anal sex, for example.

Female erotica often includes humiliation, domination and sadism. The titles of women’s sex stories abound with words such as: slave, chains, torture, bound, obey, submission. Do women associate sex with feeling ‘dirty’ or guilty about their sexual urges?

I like the wholehearted enthusiasm for sex that is portrayed in homosexual erotica. There is no virginal reluctance or demure disgust. People just enjoy the eroticism of sexual activity without anyone being forced into anything against their will (not always but mostly).

I admit that domination can be arousing. Given there is so much out there I have read my share. One book of sex stories involved a series of sadistic scenarios and frankly I was quite relieved when I eventually tired of the never-ending pain. My conclusion is that the concept of sadism may get me going but, for me at least, it does not cause orgasm.

It was a revelation to me that, unlike pornography, erotica is not intended solely for the purposes of causing sexual arousal. Perhaps this explains why I often struggle to find sex stories for women that can assist with orgasm. I have to wonder though… what else does anyone read this stuff for?

Shere Hite was phenomenal but sadly few women relate to her findings. This is because most women approach sex through their relationship with their lover. They have no concept of enjoying their own sexual arousal through clitoral stimulation. Equally they have never discovered the pleasures of sexual fantasies.

I read Hite when I was twenty and I understood that clitoral stimulation was critical to female orgasm from masturbation. However, clitoral stimulation never seemed to help with my sexual arousal during sex with my partner. The fact is that even during female masturbation, clitoral stimulation only leads to orgasm when it is combined with the use of sexual fantasies.

Men have a fairly natural transition from masturbation to sex because they use images of naked women for arousal. Women do not use images of naked men during masturbation so it is more difficult for them to transfer their orgasm techniques including their use of sexual fantasies to sex with a partner.

Buying Adult Toys Discreetly is Easier Than Ever

If you’ve never tried out adult toys or special lingerie before, chances are that you’re a bit reticent due to feeling awkward or embarrassed. This is perfectly natural; most women feel the same way. This phenomenon is largely behind the meteoric rise in popularity of adult party plans. Such get togethers are wonderful ways to dip your toe into the world of adult toys – without having to take the entire plunge.

Want To Give It A Try? Attend A Lingerie Party

Chances are, you know at least a few people who have attended a lingerie or adult toy party at one time or another. In fact, you may even already know somebody who attends them regularly. As popular as they have become, it’s certainly not difficult finding one to attend. Why have they become so popular, though? Mostly because they allow a group of women to hang out and socialise, while having the opportunity to check out different types of lingerie and sex toys. The party atmosphere of these events make them perfect for those who have never really experienced such things before.

Check Out The Merchandise In Person

If you’ve never tried out a sex toy or tried on sexy lingerie before, ordering such things online can be problematic. After all, you really don’t have much of an idea about what to expect “in real life.” At an adult toy party, though, you can see these items firsthand in order to gain a better feeling and understanding for what they are all about. Sitting amid a group of like-minded – and giggling – women can remove the awkwardness of the situation, allowing you to let loose and really familiarise yourself with such products.

Too Shy To Order Them In Person? No Problem!

As much fun as it may be to pass around various products during an adult toy or lingerie party, when it comes time to place an order some women draw the line and won’t do it. The embarrassment and reticence kick back in, and women end up leaving such parties empty-handed. If this sounds familiar, never fear: You can have your cake and eat it, too, by ordering the things that you liked the best online.

One of the most popular ways that many women obtain their sex toys and their lingerie is by attending parties, then ordering what they want upon returning home. This way, you don’t have to place an order with the hostess in front of all of your friends. Instead, you can get home, log on to a reputable website, and pick out precisely what you want without a single other person having to know about it. In a few days, your merchandise will arrive on your doorstep; discreet packaging will prevent others from having a clue about what’s inside the carton.

Expand Your Horizons Today!

It’s easy to see why lingerie and sex toys have become so popular these days. Such products can breathe new excitement and life into a floundering relationship, or can simple add a bit of spice to a strong one. The embarrassment of using such products can be mitigated by attending a fun party and by ordering what you need from the comfort of your own home. If you’re curious, there’s absolutely no reason not to try them out today.

Considerations With Adult Party Plans

If you are holding another one of those girls night out parties you might consider changing things up a bit. One of the best things you can do is hold an adult party. You can have a consultant come to your home and have a toy party, a lingerie party, and more.

If you are having another night out with the girls at your house and you have times where you all get a little bored you might want to spice things up a little. Why don’t you bring in a consultant and have an adult party you can all enjoy? This will be a big surprise for everyone but it will be so much fun.

Adult Party Plans are Educational and Fun…

When you hold an adult party one of the adult party plans you might consider is a toy party. This type of party is fun because someone will bring a bunch of different sex toys for you and your friends to look at. This gives everyone the opportunity to see what is out there and how to use them. If you have never been in a adult toy store because you are too embarrassed then this is the best time to see what is out there. You would be surprised how much fun you can make your sex life when you bring toys into the mix. You and your friends can purchase the items directly from the consultant which means you don’t have to go into one of those shops. This is very convenient and allows for a private purchase.

Another thing you might consider as part of your adult party plans is to have a lingerie party. This is so much fun and there are so many different types of lingerie you might consider. If you see something you absolutely have to have you can buy it from the consultant. The consultant is there to provide great tips about how you can wear the lingerie and what looks best for your body types too.

Sex Stories – Could it Be the Climax to a Great Night’s Sleep?

Did you know that sex stories may be the answer to getting a good night’s sleep? Yup, that’s right sex stories. Sounds a heck of a lot better than Valium or elephant sized doses of sleepy time tea, doesn’t it? Sex has been proven to be a great sleep inducer and spicing up your sex life with sex stories can be a big help in getting the sleep you need. There is no argument that the restorative powers of sleep are needed for a healthy and happy lifestyle. Sex stories can help add to your sex life making the sex better as well as your sleep.

Not sleeping can be dangerous to your health, but using sex stories as a sex aid can help stem off the negative stimuli that causes us not to be able to sleep. Studies have shown that sleep deprivation can bring on serious disease such as dementia and Parkinson’s disease. Not to mention how it can generally mess up other things in your life like your work, family life relationships, etc. The key is to wind your body and brain down just before bed and sex is the perfect way to do that. Using sex stories can put your in the mood to have sex by exciting your mind and helping to reach a better and more satisfying orgasm. That is what puts you to sleep, the release.

Some may argue that reading sex stories would get your brain too excited and may not be the best way to get a good night’s slumber. Not true. As mentioned before, it’s the release in sex that brings the mind and body down into a restful satisfied state more conducive to deep sleep. Excitement before bed such as action movies or going for a jog or other exercise have negative effects on your sleep because the endorphin build up stimulates your brain without the benefit of release. This is what causes your brain to work overtime and diminishes your ability to fall asleep.

Sex stories definitely have a nice dual effect don’t they? Spicing up your sex life while enjoying a restful night’s sleep should sound pretty good to just about anyone! Sleep is so important to your health, so is sex, so this sleep remedy is a real winner! Sure is a lot more attractive than trips to the doctor, pharmacy or the health food store.

Couples and Sexuality – Amp Up Your Sex Life This Summer by Cooling Down!

Would you like to beat the heat to enhance your sex life this summer? Extreme heat in the summer months can be a love repellant, especially when you feel hot and bothered or when the kids are up and around for more hours. This can create a challenge for you making love with your partner. Does this sound familiar? If so, read on for some solutions….

It’s a hot one this year! Keeping hydrated with clean water at all times is of the utmost importance for your health and your sex life, no matter what activities you do. Here are five fun and affordable ideas on keeping your love life hot while your body stays cool this summer:

Love tip 1: Pool party for two
Cool down in the water then heat things up! Float, relax, and break out the rafts and noodles; whatever floats your boat! Play some nice soft music while you dip. Taking a swim in your pool is a wonderful way to cool down and connect. Remember to flirt, hug, and smooch in the pool to amp things up. If you have a private pool, then skinny dipping can be very daring and arousing. Take your time- move slowly towards and away from each other playfully. Making love in the water is a fun way to share your passion while staying cool, especially at night when the temperature drops a bit. If you have kids, send them to Grandmas or your favorite sitter for the night!

Love tip 2: Romantic indoor picnic:
Buy or prepare some cool treats for the two of you- veggie platter, cold salads, fruits, cheeses or anything else chilled and easy that you enjoy eating together. Make some cold drinks such as spiked lemonade, Mojitos or Margaritas. Remember that alcohol dehydrates, so drink some extra water with your picnic dinner. Set up your picnic blanket in the middle of the room. Light some small candle jars around the room and set the mood. One or both of you can prepare the feast.

Feed each other slowly in-between kissing and teasing each other. Enjoy yourselves by candlelight. You can also enhance the mood with nature CDs such as ocean, forest, lake, or whatever you find most romantic. Tonight, make love in a different room, such as the living room on the picnic blanket. Focus on giving each other oral pleasure tonight, so each of you has a turn to lay back, relax, and stay cool while enjoying the bliss of orgasm!
Love tip 3: Romantic movie date:

This cool date can be at home or out. If you go out to the movies, find a very romantic movie out in the theaters. There is usually at least one each summer. Find a seat in the back of the theater. Hold hands! Steal a kiss or two. Whisper sweet something to each other about what you will do to each other later. Share some popcorn and chilled water while you enjoy the movie. Laugh, cry, and then go home to make love.

Love tip 4: Racy movie date:
If you are at home, rent or buy a racy movie. There is a company called Candida Royalle that offers some softer adult films with cheesy romantic story lines. One site you can get them at is Adam Eve. You can also find some harder core adult films on that site, depending on your tastes. You can have fun with these movies, giggle or reenact some of the scenes together. Try some different sexual positions tonight, such as woman on top facing away from the man. This allows for maximum air circulation and freedom to move in a way that pleases her. Don’t forget to reach around to stimulate her clitoris to send her into O-land! Remember to drink plenty of water, and top it off with ice cream or some fruit salad.

Love tip 5: Cool and Hot Shower Time:
Instead of taking a hot shower tonight, make the water lukewarm or on the cooler side. Bring some waterproof toys such as I rub my duckie or a waterproof vibrator. You can also use a movable shower head that has different speeds for some soapy fun! Spend time lathering each other up. Take your time and use a nice scented soap, such as mango, raspberry or lemon.

By the way, vibrators can be for him and her! Massage each others back and front areas, focusing first away from the genitals and then later to the genitals. To stimulate her, use circular motions with the vibrator around the labia and clitoris where most of the nerve endings are. Later, insert one or two fingers gently into her vaginal canal. She may be able to reach one, two, three or more orgasms this way in a row. To get him going, stimulate his penis with one hand and using the vibrator underneath his testicles. Ask for feedback to see how it feels. Some people like vibrators and some don’t. Experiment with different speeds. When you are done, rinse off and dry each other off and then fall asleep together. Turn on the ceiling fans for some extra breeze.

How Adult Toy Parties Can Spice Things Up

One reason that many women are reticent to attend adult parties is because they think there’s no way they’d be interested in the items that are offered at one. Everyone’s sexual preferences vary by a considerable degree; what one person considers outrageous, another won’t even bat an eyelash at. That being said, it should be noted that adult toy parties offer a huge range of items – and there is bound to be something there that will positively thrill you.

Amp Up The Adventure in Your Love Life

If the idea of bringing home a sex toy just doesn’t sit all that well with you, you still shouldn’t rule out attending an adult toy party. There are many different party ideas for adults, and most of these parties feature more conventional items as well. Above all, you are bound to discover that you aren’t as embarrassed as you thought you’d be – especially once you see the enormous benefits that go along with introducing such items into your relationship.

Get Creative with Body Paint

Women who are reluctant to purchase actual sex toys often find body paint to be a pleasant alternative. Edible body paints come in a wide array of delicious flavours; when used in the bedroom, a lot of extra fun can be had. Chocolate body paint, for instance, is a delicious way to explore your partner’s body in a whole new way. You can use it however you want to, of course, which ensures that you won’t feel awkward.

Don Some Costume Lingerie

Costume lingerie is another very popular item for women who aren’t keen on buying outright sex toys at adult toy parties. Dressing up for your partner is a fun way to jazz things up, and there are generally many different costumes to choose from. When you look sexy, you feel sexy as well; feeling sexy helps you get in the mood – and is sure to thrill your partner, too! It’s amazing what one simple outfit can do in terms of excitement in a relationship, so be sure to keep an open mind.

Just Try It!

The most important thing to do when considering whether or not to attend an adult toy party is to push all of your preconceived notions to the side. Until you’ve been to one, there’s no way to tell whether or not you will enjoy such an event. If you’re like the vast majority of women, however, you are bound to have a wonderful time. Instead of feeling awkward and embarrassed, you’ll get right into the spirit of things. Rather than bringing home something that you’re nervous about using, you’ll bring back something fun that you and your partner will have a blast experimenting with. Adult toy parties – and the items they offer – are definitely win-win situations.

How To Choose The Right Adult Toy Party Company To Represent

It can be tough to start a new business. Decisions, decisions. One such decision is, do you structure your new business on your own, or do you reach out and research companies that supply all the marketing material and products for you. In the Adult Toy Party business (home party category), there are about a dozen companies you can choose from to be your base of operations. After 4 months of extensive research, about a half a dozen come up worthy of being placed on the consideration list. Only 1 of those companies comes out on top.

This article will not extend itself to naming names. It’s purpose is not to be malicious or to bad mouth other companies, that’s just poor business in itself. If you are with a company that practices what I call “Run from It” tactics, you already know that. If you are searching for an adult toy party business company to join – this article should give you a few questions to ask. Their answers will let you know they were in the running.

One of the first things you can do before even making the call is to go to Google and type in [Company Name] Complaints. One of the adult toy party companies that comes up on practically all the search pages for “Adult Toy Parties” (because they have been in business a long time, and spend a lot of money in marketing), came up with 205,000 results from this complaints search. With that – I really don’t have to go any further in my investigation. Not A Chance!

Even with extensive research, you can end up choosing the wrong company for you. We did, but realized the mistake quickly (within a month), got out, and started over. The GOOD that came out of our wrong choice was more questions to ask to determine the right choice.

You Know It’s A Bad Choice When (“Run From It!”)…

Monthly Sales Quotas

This is one in a series of requirements that lets me know that the company is self-serving. They are in it to make money for themselves and they could give a rats a$$ about whether or not you succeed. How many of us are in this to convert to full time? Sure, it’s always a dream, but in reality we are all just trying to supplement our income, or our spouse’s income. This month the kids may have soccer tournaments every weekend, next month we may be free to do parties all month – that’s what a home business is supposed to afford you – flexibility to make how much, or how little is within your schedule and desire. Don’t rope me into what YOU think I should be doing.

No, You Can NOT Construct Your Own Website.

Self-serving. The bulk of representative websites (the website they give you to market for your business) have corporate information all over it, giving your potential customers multiple avenues to contact the company directly. And, as a professional and multiple award winning web designer I think I have the authority to comment, the bulk of representative website are just plain bad – gaudy – error glittered, and un-optimized. Now, most of the individuals looking into the Adult Toy Party Home Business are NOT web designers – granted, but give them the option. Even a basic hosted Word Press template can become FAR more optimized than the representative sites.

Your company website and marketing material are splattered with corporate information.

Self-serving, self-serving, self-serving. Seriously, why would I want to hand out a bunch of catalogs that I paid for that have, on each page, the corporate toll free number and corporate website address? Why do I want to direct people to my website if the contact form goes to some corporate department where I then have to wait for them to sift through and get to it and forward it to me, I hope. I’ve heard the explanation that they are protecting themselves. They are making sure that if you decide to get out of the business, the material that you put out there still has a working contact tool. I say bull. My customers aren’t stupid and if they want to contact corporate they can certainly figure out how to do that without it being splattered all over MY BUSINESS marketing material.

Oh no, THAT product is only 30% profit

This was one of the straws that broke the back with the 1st company we chose. We bought in during a special which gave us 60% profit for 90 days. I guess we should have known that 60% was just too good to be true (your industry standard is 40%), but it was a special, and only for 90 days so we figured – nice little promotion. And from the outside, everything else looked good. Well, once in and placing orders we get the story that (about 70% of what we needed to order) some of the products were only 30% profit. That’s just deceitful, and with deceit that blatant, we were not going to take a chance on giving them any more of our efforts.

You can only market our parties to ladies

Why do so many of these companies feel that it is wrong (or even against the law) to promote romance among couples? (I checked. It’s not illegal). In Why Americans Divorce I read that “22 percent of men cited sex as the reason for the divorce”. In Sex Is Biggest Cause of Divorce I learned that a UK law firm reports “sex was a factor in 43 per cent of divorce cases”. Think about it. Wouldn’t it be cool if we, as romance consultants could be a savior in as little as .01% of that? If you saved ONE marriage, would that not be cool? And how about us as consultants? Don’t you think it might bring a couple or two closer together to run a romance business together?

You only make commission of 1 (or 2) levels of your team, and only if YOU maintain a certain monthly income.

OK, I get the rule of having to maintain a certain monthly income in order to reap the benefits of your team, although it would be nice (and potentially lucrative to the parent company) to have a business or 10 who simply excel in helping their team succeed. Business coaching is a pretty big field, you know? But regardless, I get that part – but, why should I be limited to just 1 or 2 levels of my team? I want to hear at least 4 or 5, and the company we settled in with does it Unlimited. Now THAT’S what I’M talking about!

Your hostess rewards program comes out of YOUR pocket – and worse still, the company marketing material designates what the hostess rewards program is.

So you (the parent company) are going to tell me what I have to give to a hostess for having a party for me, but I have to pay for it? Not cool. If I have to pay for it, then I should be able to decide what those incentives are. And in a perfect world YOU (the parent company) should be paying for it. You are, after all, reaping the bulk of the rewards.

You can only sell our products. No one else’s. Even if it is not in direct competition.

Just not cool. Why should I not be able to supplement my business further by offering a line of jewelry, or kitchen items, or plastics for that matter. Why Not? And really, if you don’t sell the liberator wedge, and I can get it wholesale, and it’s a seller, why should I be NOT allowed to sell it? If you don’t want us to sell what sells from someone else, than offer it yourself – otherwise, let us stock our business!

Those are a few of the items you should look out for that should cause you to continue your search, should the company you are looking at practice these tactics.

Some items that you do want your company to offer are:

    • Countless ways to earn. Look for at least 40% across the board on the main product line
    • Internet sales. Take a CLOSE look at the representative site that is offered. Take a look at it in ALL browsers. Take yourself all the way through a purchase (all the way to the point where you click accept to make the buy – stop there if you don’t want the item). Remember, the look and feel, the errors, the problems, all of this is going to reflect on YOUR business.
    • Customer promotions. There should be some incentives (that do NOT come out of your pocket) to help your customers want to buy.
    • Team building commission. You should be incentivized, and compensated for building and training your team.
    • Residual income. How is going the company going to help keep the income coming.
    • Bonuses. Look for car bonuses, house bonuses, travel bonuses, etc.
  • COMPANY PAID hostess rewards program. You should not be out of pocket in rewarding your hostess to through you a party.

It’s difficult enough to run your own business without being held down by restrictions, bad press, and uncooperative or no support. Check out your possible parent company thoroughly, and remember – if they aren’t living up to your standards or not producing what you believe you deserve, jump ship – there are other companies that will.

Telling Sex Stories Can Lead to a Great Orgasm – Secrets to Dirty Talk Sex

Telling sexy stories and talking dirty in bed can lead to having better intercourse and ultimately a great orgasm. Using dirty talk is really a form of foreplay and by using it you can stimulate you partner and turn them on. Many people get into a routine and this can become boring and lead to a non exciting love life. You need to spice it up and telling each other sexy stories can be one great options to put you in the mood.

The first thing that you want to do is to find out what fantasies the other one has this way you can cater the story around that interest. Do not be afraid to try this new technique on each other because you need to try new things always to keep your love life fresh and interesting. Women like it when you talk softly in there ear so you may want to tell your sex story there so that they can fell you close to them.

It is important that when you are talking dirty that you also caress and message each other so that you can hear and feel the pleasure. Remember that when a woman is going to have an orgasm that it is very important that you have prolonged foreplay because they take longer than a man to climax. Never rush through your love making or foreplay because you need to enjoy this time and to get more intimate.

It is always best that when you are trying something new that you have all the information you can so that you can have a successful time with your partner in bed.

 

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Sex Stories – Tips For a Great Swinging Couples Party

You’re no stranger to block parties and birthdays, but now you’re looking to throw a party with a little more of an adult theme? For wild couples, swing parties can be fun for an anniversary or special birthday, or they can be great events for you to organize regularly. So what do you have to consider? As in all sex stories, what’s important are the fundamentals:

Where to Have your Party

Your own home is your best bet for your party as a new host. You might be tempted to hold a party outside in warm weather- lots of space, beautiful scenery and easy cleanup. But this isn’t wise unless you live VERY far away from your neighbors.
You may think a high fence or tall trees provide privacy, but even if your neighbors can’t see you, they can still hear you! This can result in a complaint and an unfortunate police visit.
Attempts to hide your party attendees’ sounds with loud music won’t work. Those bright colorful lights you’ll see aren’t festive decorations, but police cars out front.
All this considered, it’s best to keep the action inside when you start out. If you’re a real beginner, you’ll also want to attend a few swing parties before trying to host your own.
Sometimes people consider hosting as an easy way to make some money, but like most plans for fast money, it’s not as simple as it looks. It’s important to plan your parties well, and you’re not hosting a spectator sport. In order to get along with your guests and have a good party, you should be into swinging yourself.

The Guest List

In the beginning you should invite people you know from other swingers’ parties and groups. You’ll want to get more comfortable with hosting and more familiar with swinging before you let strangers show up.
Saturday night’s alright for swinging- people tend to be too tired to get into it at the end of the week on Friday. It’s a good idea to start promoting your party about a month in advance, and encourage people to bring people they actually know, but not friends of friends.
Make this rule very clear: couples only!! Single men often try to crash to take advantage of what they imagine is just one big orgy- that’s not what this is about. Single men or women can cause jealousies and complications. Limiting your guest list to couples allows everyone to relax and enjoy themselves.

What to Serve your Guests

It’s illegal to sell alcohol without a liquor license so you can’t charge for alcohol or you could be arrested. Instead, charge a fee per couple to attend and give away the food and liquor. $30 per couple is a standard charge, or you can charge a smaller fee and make it BYOB.
One of the first things you should establish is how many couples you can accommodate, depending on space, your comfort, and the energy you want your party to have. You can overbook by 50% because a lot of people may not show up.
Require that people RSVP by e-mail. This way, you’ll have the e-mails of all the people who are attending so you can send them the time, date and location of the party, along with rules and any fun details of a theme if you’re having one (these are common at swing parties.)

Speaking of Rules…

You should say up front whether you’ll allow smoking and any kind of cameras/documentation. These can make some guests uncomfortable, so they should know what they’re getting into.
Make it clear that the party is supposed to be fun and safe for everyone, and you won’t tolerate drunkenness or fighting.
Also, all activities will be completely consensual and no one will have to participate in anything they aren’t comfortable with.

Use these simple guidelines and you’ll have your guests coming again and again!

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